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He and She —- Nikhil and Tanya & Questions Unanswered | Life Blog
He and She —- Nikhil and Tanya & Questions Unanswered | Life Blog
We crave for the special one in our life with whom we would have had made our life better and we regret not having that special one. But is it that those who are in a relationship with the someone, whom once they thought is their love are happy and have had the best feel of life and it continues till the end? There are times when people having this bliss cannot take it to a long term commitment. It’s not that their love falls apart or their feeling changes or even they regret of choosing the wrong person. Many times it continues in the desired way but never ends the same way it had begun. Call it destiny, luck, karma or something unknown but sometimes it never ends the way we want it.
I met Nikhil and Tanya and realized how cute a love can be, and also what we cannot do something even when everything is good between the two.
They were odd, they were totally different, and that’s why I think they were together. As the old age, the scientific rule goes “opposites attract”.…..
I knew him from college days, a smile is what defined him. I didn’t know her, but whenever I met her I found her looks and voice was what defined her. Nikhil and Tanya met in B. School, where both of them went to have fun, enjoyment and so-called studies too. Nikhil went there after 4 years of unproductive and unfruitful B.Tech, where the only great thing he did was a break up with a 3-year-old relationship. Tanya, on the other hand, came after completing B.B.A, where she only studied. Both came from different family backgrounds and cultures which had their own restrictions and own limitations.
The first day when they faced each other, he found her beautiful and charming and she didn’t realize who he was.
Days began and so began talks. He found her more and more interesting day by day but she didn’t felt the same. Time went on and days passed, they began to know each other better. He began to move towards her whenever possible; entering her group or talking to her wherever she is alone. There is no reason or proof or explanation of why people can fall for each other, and that’s why love is defined in many ways, but it always means the same.….
Everyday activity turns into a habit, habit leads to addiction. And that was happening in his case too. She was becoming his addiction. He felt good day by day with her and his soul smiled seeing her, which was reflected on his face too. He began to know her better as they became friends and so did he began to love her. Even the entire college noticed his inclination towards her but Tanya was reluctant to even give a thought to the thing that was happening. She had her own reasons for it. But it didn’t take long for him to go to her and tell her what both of them already knew.
It sometimes makes the other person feel special when words are used to convey feelings along with expressions and emotions. It adds to the feeling of love. But in this case, Tanya was not ready to feel such feeling. It was neither her mistake nor did his, but she hailed from such a culture where the thought of loving or going ahead in life with someone other than her caste was a total NO. With the incidents that went in her life or family, she was pretty much sure of what will go in the future and she was ready to accept it.
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By the passing of 1st year, they got extremely close irrespective of her resistance of not moving towards her. Love has its own way of flowing and luckily no restrictions can block its flow. If it has to, it will. They were very much together from there soul, but in this outer world, they were single Not at all committed. The commitment was only a term they avoided in public. But each and everyone around them knew what they were, from the vibes of love which used to get created when both of them used to be together. Many times, Love just happens, irrespective of knowing it will lead nowhere, it actually takes place somewhere and that place is HEART. They blossomed together with time.They were like two parts of a single beautiful locket, which looks good only when both parts are joined together. She talked like an idiot box and he was always the audience who listened to this idiot box, even when others got bored. Because he never got bored hearing her, never. It was at the beginning of his feeling for her that was hard and harsh for Nikhil to even live at a distance away or even think a future without Tanya. But with time this torture of thought was transferred from him to her. She is a sheer feeling of emotions once said, “First it was difficult for you to leave me and now it is getting impossible for me to leave you”.
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He loved her. His life was described by her name. In some form, in some way, he didn’t really know how and why, but he did. He did love her. Every day and at every point of time. That consistency was what made his love different. He cared for her happiness. He remorse her sadness. He felt the very smile she smiled. He actually did. He was unaware of what all needs to be taken care of if you are in love.He was unaware of all the rules and regulations to achieve love. But neither he needed to be aware of all that. He felt good to love her and all that was what mattered. There are people who deserve everything in this world. They owe happiness in this world and you are the person, who brings them their desires. They don’t need to have the oblige by asking anything from you, they just need to state and you deliver irrespective of thinking how you are related to them, just with the aim of seeing them happy. Tanya was this to Nikhil.
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We see in relationships, attitude, ego, inferiority complex and many other issues between two people, which in the beginning are ignored when the feeling is at liking stage, but with time they spoil the relations and then there was this couple who fought, had arguments, and issues too but their love overpowered every other issue. They prioritized each other over those issues, even knowing that this won’t continue till the end. That too was what made their love -DIFFERENT
Two years were coming to an end, and the intensity of feelings between them was growing day by day. They loved the feeling of love. Colleges ended. Their meetings got rare, as both got busy with their jobs but it got compensated with the night talks, to discuss their day’s activities and their life continued the same way. It has been a year more after college got over. They are still were good with each other. No issues, just love.….
But they don’t talk to each other anymore. They have stopped discussing their day to day activities with their night talks. Even for any important work, they avoid calling each other. They didn’t fight, neither any other issues with each other but still they just stopped interaction with each other. They realized the time or the phase which they wanted should never exist actually has arrived.The age of getting married was what arrived and so their respective families have started searching for a suitable partner for them. They would have continued talking or being in contact but it would have hurt them more leaving each other at the last moment, so they began to prepare themselves a life without each other. Both are living their professional life and spending the result of the time with their own self and their friends.
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I met Nikhil some days back and found he was smiling, as usual, he used to. I had talk to Tanya and she is still the same chirpy talking idiot box. You never realize or mostly they never make you realize what all are they going through. I think that’s what at-least their love has taught them. To Accept
Nothing went wrong between them. Then why? Why did this happen to them? Why two pure souls, made for each other still never lived with each other? Why love is not sufficient for two persons to be together? Why people don’t understand that in this selfish world, where it is nearly impossible to move our attention from ourselves, and yet we find people who shed their soul out for ourselves?
Sometimes, we avoid that love under friendship and sometimes under lack of emotions, but even after we accept it, sometimes it’s the fate which comes into the picture.
I don’t deny the fate, destiny or karma or luck, but still, I prefer true feelings of love ahead of them. Two pure souls being together is the epitome of life and happiness. Nothing comes ahead of it.
In life, irrespective of all the hurting, the aches, the problems, the pity issues, love was, love is and will always be bliss.
Love should not end the way it is destined to be instead it should move the way it is meant to be. Their love story ended but ending their love was something not possible. Love Bestowed them with Love, Life bestowed them with FATE. They were made to love each other, though they were not made for each other.…..
They were so very different just to be same in that way and so was their LOVE…. ——-@ Ramta Jogi*********************************
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A short sweet life | Life Blog
A short sweet life | Life Blog
We sometimes never able to understand what our life is or where it will take us through, but if we think then we will realize that we don’t need to understand it.
On a random weekend, at 11:30 Sunday noon after having brunch with an old college friend and coming back to my place, the only feeling that goes in my mind is contentment and a feeling of accomplishment for having had a time which will be relished forever.
Now in my comfort zone which I have created for myself, do we actually need to think we about life?
The sweetness of life is that it is short else we would have been bored with it too. And in this short life, we need not to always think about what we want to achieve or about what we want to chase. Else this short life will even be more shortened.
Sometimes the only things that are meant are to enjoy are the ones which are tiny enough to be seen easily but are achieved more easily.
To do List
A walk in the rain
Witnessing a cloudy day with a cold breeze flowing
Enjoying a television show you like,
Taking dinner with the entire family,
Calling up an old friend you haven’t talked since ages,
Sorting the old grudges,
Crying for someone you miss and
Expressing your love for someone and many more.
At this age having mental peace is the most difficult thing to obtain.
Why?
Reason: Because we don’t want it.
We remain occupied in so much of thoughts about our outer self that we find it difficult to have some part of our time for our inner self and that result in the absence of peace
And then we complain that life is Tough.
Life is not tough; we have actually made it tough by ignoring the time for ourselves. By moaning for the big things in life which we were not able to achieve and not considering the sweet small beautiful things which give us a sense of satisfaction and peace too.
It is a right time to change and a right time for OURSELVES
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I do not trust love because of my parents | Life Blog | The Times of India
Life Blog | The Times of India |I do not trust love because of my parents
The beginning
I am 25, single and have all sorts of experiences in my kitty. At this juncture, my mother is in a hurry to find a suitable girl for me and get me hitched. But perhaps, I am not ready for it. Not that I am not stable in life or have any other issue, but because I fear love. The fear that has been instilled in my heart and mind because of what I have witnessed in life.
My family…
My father is hale and hearty, and he is rich too! But he does not stay with me and my mother. They got divorced when I was about to step into my twenties. Rarely does he visit us and vice versa? After parting ways with my mother, he re-married while my mother took my responsibility and remained single.
My parents met during their struggling days. Belonging to different communities meant difficulty in getting married, but anyhow, they did. Years passed, and with the passage of time, they found that things weren’t working out the way they wanted them to. Hence, they got separated.
I feel that in this era, where relationships are based on some terms and conditions and reality is hidden under the mask of understanding if your relationship loses that zeal and the stubbornness that holds two persons together, then staying together doesn’t make sense.
The beginning of the end…
In this light, I find my parents’ decision to be fairly practical. I do not blame them. It is a different thing than being a child I never wanted them to be apart. But again, divorce is like a grave disease that doesn’t show up until the final stage is reached. And unfortunately, the moment it reveals itself to you, nothing can be done to reverse its effect.
I felt low; cried for months. I tried to divert myself towards other things when I saw my mother’s mental trauma. The pain she went through, the emotions in her eyes were something I cannot explain in words. Later, the hardships of life and my own relationships made me look at my parents’ decision from a different perspective altogether.
After effects !!
I lost all the love I had in me. Got into three beautiful relationships, and while all of them looked long-lasting, they ended in ways I never thought they will. I ended each one of them. As things became clearer, smoother, I pulled myself back from making a commitment.
I loved them, wanted them to last long, but the word ‘commitment’ gave me goosebumps. At times I thought I wasn’t cut out for it. I craved for love, but whenever I got it, I got confused. I used to distance myself from it, excusing the distance to boredom. Perhaps this was the way I tried to deceive myself from the fear of relationships. I don’t deny my mistakes, but the face of the lady who raised me up and seeing the dearth of love in her life made me more cautious. It prevented me from loving someone to the extent of getting hurt.
I was 19 when that incident hit me, I wasn’t mature enough to understand its cause or its implications.
Conclusion…
I am a changed man now. and believe in living in the present and I don’t think much of what happened and accept it as an unfortunate past which has been associated with me and I no longer regret it. Occasionally, I meet my dad, we discuss a lot of things and end our meetings quite casually. But sometimes, seeing my mother hide her grief behind a smile and the sense of loneliness in her eyes makes me hate the fate bestowed upon her.
But I don’t hate love now. I do hate my past fear of commitment, but seeing society and living with different people, I’ve realized that the love I have seen is an exception to the real one. The beauty of love lies somewhere outside the one that existed between my parents. I have definitely lost the love in me for people, but am searching for it within myself again.
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Published in The Times of India
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Give TIME to get a DIME | Life Blog
Give TIME to get a DIME | Life Blog
Standing at this stage of life, just after a year of completion of my bachelors and witnessing the life around me, we are seeing people confused, frustrated and spoiling their present for the future which even does not have dependability too; makes me realize what are actually we doing?
Are we really living life or just leaving it?
This age has given us a lot of worst things to ponder upon.
- A bad past to regret upon,
- A mediocre present to hate and
- A hope of better future to think for.
And to its irony we are pondering on all of the 3.
We have stopped to live the life and doing our work; for which we actually came into existence and the time which is given to perform in life is invested in a lot of thinking. We have just passed a year after college and we are burdening ourselves with what bad can happen to us or what can happen to us?
What if we don’t get the desired income from our job? What if we don’t got a best b school to study in? Why am I doing this work? What am I doing in this college? Is this life worth living? Is this good age to get married?
And I am asking, is this actually a time to think all this?
The typical mentality of our society which makes us realize too early that we have to handle the responsibilities of our families as soon as we get out from education and this leads to spoiling of our life before we enter in this actual world
Did we actually knew in primary section that will come in secondary sections?
Did we actually knew in 10th standard what will follow in 11th,
And same did we actually knew what all we will do in college years.
The answer is : NO
When we entered from primary – secondary-college, we got to know everything as we experienced it. So why do we need to be conscious about our future before time? It’s this mentality of burdening ourselves with multiple responsibilities at the age of living the life of our dream. That holds us back, stops us, and makes us a man of thought and just thought without actions.
We are the new born children’s in the new world, so why don’t we live like the newly born though in a bit mature way. Why don’t we enjoy our present work without thinking what it will lead in future? Why can’t we still live a life which we can enjoy, which we can love and which develops our understanding by teaching us with experience rather than imposing it on us at a early age. Earning is important part of life and same is with responsibilities but everything needs time.
Even a baby needs a minimum of 7 months to come out of his\her mother’s womb.
As we get involved in working or studying we ourselves will notice a change in our life which will make us realize what we want to do in our lives, how can we earn, how can we handle the responsibilities.
Everything happens with age and this age is not to think about what can be done, but to act on what we are doing in the best way. We don’t know whether our actions will have good results or not, but that’s life. We will learn from the results of our actions and move ahead in a better way, but pondering upon will not lead to anywhere
The time that is going on is such that the struggles in life have increased and the outcome of the struggles has become slow and steady. I fee that everyone wants to run fast, but in this running, they don’t remember the one who runs fast, gets tired early and to go long walk taking time, realizing each and every moment of life understanding it and enjoying it.
——– In short : Give time to get a dime
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